“I LOVE and approve of myself, I love and APPROVE of myself, I love and approve of MYSELF” – Louise Hay
Have you ever used affirmations? 
Have you ever repeated positive reinforcements to yourself?
Have you ever done affirmations but then gave up because you didn’t see the results you wanted?
If you answered yes to any or all of these questions, rest assured that you are not alone and if you are feeling a mild irritation or disquiet around the topic, once again you are not alone. I’ve actually seen people roll their eyes and sigh at the very mention of Affirmations.
So what’s the real story with this highly acclaimed metaphysical staple?
Is it really just about thinking positively?
Are you required to put yourself out on a limb and risk disappointment if “they” don’t work?
And whhhyyyyyyy are people still going on about them and how great they are?
Well, like most of the truly powerful and singularly satisfying things in life, there are a couple of key elements to assure you of affirmation accomplishment.
One of those essential elements is this:
It’s not enough to just say the words, repeating something verbally will only get you so far. Whatever you say (and I mean everything you utter during your day) programs your unconscious mind to seek out that experience and you also put out to the universe a message of what you want more of.
This can be very good, if your words reflect what you actually want to experience (beware all those who talk about something being a pain in the neck!) However, in order for you to experience results, when using affirmations or not (I personally would go so far as to say that everything you say is an affirmation of your desired outcome), your vibration or energy must resonate with the words.
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It’s not enough to just say the words,
repeating something verbally
will only get you so far.
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So what does this mean?
Let’s take a common example. If your affirmation is centred around being in a loving relationship you need to first move into the energy of a loving relationship because this energetic connection is the dynamic that drives and supports your affirmations.
Before the dream partner arrives? Yes.
How can you create the energy of a loving, mutually supportive, creatively encouraging, hand holding, stone-skimming relationship when currently it’s just you, the cat and trips to soft furnishing stores?
You create it by being that loving partner to yourself, by asking yourself who you need to be in order to attract that type of relationship into your life and then make the appropriate adjustments and changes.
Remember, the quality of the relationships we have with others are a direct reflection of the quality of relationship with have with ourselves.
If you treat yourself or speak to yourself poorly, by your language and energy you will attract more of the same into your life. If you treat yourself reasonably but speak negatively to yourself you are out of alignment. There is a mis-match and you will attract whichever of these experiences affects your energetic state most strongly. This is very important. Your emotional, energetic, vibrational state is the primary catalyst to your experiences in life and the success of your affirmations.
Your words can say one thing, but if your energy says something else the result will be hit and miss at best.
So, let’s say for example your heart-felt desire is to experience a loving relationship, you could use this affirmation “I am now ready to accept and embrace my divinely blessed relationship, I am love and love constantly surrounds me”.
You can notice how these words make you feel.
You can notice what sort of energetic state they place you in.
You can choose to notice all the examples of love in the world around you.
You can practice loving kindness towards yourself.
You can at the same time use your words of affirmation.
The result of doing all of these things is that it places your energy vibration in alignment with your words of affirmation because you will be marrying your physical world creative energies of your lower chakras, with the spiritual higher intelligence of your upper chakras through the gateway of your heart.
If you would like to share your experiences and success stories about using affirmations please post them here. They are inspiring and encouraging and I’d love to read them as I’m sure your fellow IntuiChic Living friends would too.
